Girlfriends, my hair is on fire! I am hot!!! I just heard a piece on Good Morning America that has rocked my world. I am not naïve. I am aware that people use Facebook, My Space and other social sites to accommodate emotional affairs and maybe they evolve into physical affairs. But to hear that we have websites out there that profit by helping women to cheat on their HUSBANDS, astounds me. What’s more appalling to me is that, ladies, women are using these sites and they are successful.
I will not name the website but it is a site that is dedicated to help women cheat. They market themselves by stating “…an affair guaranteed.” And “when divorce isn’t an option.” Girlfriends, do you get this. The site is geared to MARRIED people. This particular site has 3.5 million members.
The women interviewed stated they LOVED their HUSBANDS but their husbands weren’t interested in sex and/or are boring. They said they found men that made them feel attractive and don’t depend on their husbands to fulfill this need. WHAT?
I woke up this morning with my quest for Biblical womanhood on my mind. I want to get back to basics on being the woman in my home that God wants me to be. This obviously includes my relationship with my husband. I want so badly to revive a fresh and exciting relationship with Kevin. I was even planning to write about this quest in this morning’s blog. However, as I sat at the computer beside Kevin in his office, he tells me I should write about what Good Morning America was getting ready to air. I listened and my heart fell then I got “hot”.
You see, I woke up this morning, after being a little miffed by a statement Kevin made, with a renewed commitment to fulfill my Biblical role. Girlfriends, I had to pray and decide to fall under Kevin’s leadership and do what HE wants on “his” day off. This is what stirred me to remember my Biblical role. I am happiest in the will of God, which leads me to the conclusion of my blog and the reality of my “heat”.
I am “hot” because I am so mad that the devil continues to destroy lives. These women who use the site obviously are not Christians (I hope!). These women have needs that only our Lord and Savior can fulfill. They are being deceived as to what is true fulfillment. Now, I am mad at me for not being more proactive in evangelizing.
I am also mad that some of us (yes, US) don’t model and encourage women to see a healthy, fun, exciting, Christian marriage. We walk around so burdened and “woe is me” my husband doesn’t meet my every need. I can hear some of you laughing because you think Kevin is my servant and meets my every need. Well, he comes close but he is not perfect. I am also amiss in my treatment to him and we fuss and we ignore and we become unhappy.
TODAY girlfriends, join me in giving our marriages an evaluation. Let’s revive excitement and passion. Fall in love again with the man of our youth. I plan to. I say this and I know the devil waits with his snares. Pray up, ladies.
Last note: The ladies in the interview on Good Morning America ended their interviews by saying in hindsight they wish they would of went to counseling with their husbands and had planned on the affair being temporary.
What do you think about this topic, my friends? Bring it on!
3 comments:
I think you are dead on it, Anna. We as women look for fulfillment in every avenue except the ones God has so richly blessed us with. But I think it goes deeper. It's like we think we deserve all these "feelings" from a relationship without all the work. Marriage is work. But it's also pleasure of the deepest and most intimate sort when one puts the right amount of work into it.
We do that with other things, too. We seek the feelings without the confines of God's design. It's in everything from marriages to churches to relationships with girlfriends. Honoring Him first and allowing Him to build intimacy is the only way to do it. The best marriages are a love triangle, with God taking the top center point.
And on the evangelization point, I can't add to it, but you go, Girl!
Yes I agree with you Anna. Jim and I are taking a class at church for couples thats called The Five Love Languages & The Five Languages Of Apology by Gary Chapman. It has been so good and an eye opener. Also it amazed me all the different age groups that we have in our class. Some fixing to get married to couples in their 60's. So it goes to show that it doesn't matter how long you have been married there is always room for improvement Maybe this could be your next bible study.
Couldn't have said it better than Sonia and Robin!
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