What Becomes of the Broken Hearted?

What Becomes of the Broken Hearted? - Jimmy Ruffin

As I walk this land with broken dreams
I have visions of many things
Love's happiness is just an illusion
Filled with sadness and confusion,
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who had love that's now departed?
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Maybe.
The fruits of love grow all around
But for me they come a tumblin' down.
Every day heartaches grow a little stronger
I can't stand this pain much longer
I walk in shadows
Searching for light
Cold and alone
No comfort in sight,
Hoping and praying for someone to care
Always moving and goin to where
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who had love that's now departed?
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Maybe.
I'm searching though I don't succeed,
But someone look, there's a growing need.
Oh, he is lost, there's no place for beginning,
All that's left is an unhappy ending.
Now what's become of the broken-hearted
Who had love that's now departed?
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
I'll be searching everywhere
Just to find someone to care.
I'll be looking everyday
I know I'm gonna find a way
Nothings gonna stop me now
I'll find a way somehow
I'll be searching everywhere

Ladies, there is nothing like mending the broken heart.  Especially if it is a loved one.  Especially if it is your son.  His dream is broken.  I don't want to air all his business but you know from past posts that he and his girlfriend of 2 1/2 years had broke up in October 2008.  Well, I communicate with her mother via email and she recently advised me, with a heavy heart, that her daughter has moved on and is in another relationship now.  She loves her daughter and is totally committed to her happiness as she should be.  She however was very close to my son.  She never gave any false hope but continued to support Cory in his school and spiritual choices.  She and Cory had a special bond that this mother wouldn't interfere.  She however at her daughter's request and in her loyalty to her family must sever the communication between my son and herself.  This is all for good I am sure.  However, I am left with a son that not only lost a girl he truly loved and never gave up on a future together, but also a loss of a mentor.  

Wanda (girlfriend's mom) prayed me through the process of telling Cory his fate.  I told him yesterday.  He was brave and didn't show any extreme emotion.  He quietly told me he knew it was coming, but the reality it being final, well, he said he didn't know what to feel.  I saw numbness.  This was yesterday late morning when I told him.  I asked him what he wanted to do since he had the day off.  I said to him, "If I was a worldly mother, I would take you for a drink." The nuturing mom who thinks food would comfort him, refrained from this suggestion which would of been another sin.  We had just ate breakfast.  Ladies, I didn't know how to comfort him.  He wasn't showing any emotion but I know he was hurting inside.  I just wanted to provide a distraction.  

He said he needed to go to Walmart to exchange a purchase.  So we quickly dressed and headed out.  We took a long drive through Lake Lure on our way to Hendersonville.  He kept saying we should of brought a camera.  We saw beautiful ice sculptures on the river and off the rocks.  He was seeing God in nature, ladies.  He was appreciating his surrounding and more importantly he wasn't giving up on enjoying life.  Here we go "There is a God!".

Cory has had anger issues in the past.  I was sure he would be angry....I never saw a hint of anger throughout the day and night.  He was peaceful.  We did window shopping at Pier 1 and Belk.  He endured the household sections.  I discovered his great sense of taste.  He tends to like the finer things.  He taste for linens, dishes, furniture are all very expensive.  I should of known since this kid wears designer labels right down to his underwear and socks!  He better become that doctor he wants to be.  

I offered to take him to supper and let the other guys fend for themselves.  He said he just wanted a drink and for his mom to make "Grill cheese sandwiches".  Hmmm!  His ex girlfriend enjoyed grilled cheese sandwiches with us on Sunday nights after church.  I won't read anything into this but hmmmm!  I probably won't get to make them again.  This might of been part of the closure.  I made comfort food last night, homemade potato soup and grilled cheese sandwiches.  It was getting late and we had church. I chose to stay home and clean up.  I wanted to get to bed early.  I will share later why.  To my surprise and sheer delight, Cory gets up from the table and tells his brother, "Get ready we are going to church.  I want to go to church even if mom and dad don't go."  So off they went!  He is keeping the faith, girlfriends!!!!   I just have to say it "There is a God!!!".  

So "What becomes of the broken hearted?"  I still don't know.  But if this mom's prayers have anything to do with it....all will be well!!!

Ladies, I need your prayers.  I feel the attack on my body where the Behcets are concerned.  If you are new to this blog, feel free to look up "The Behcets Post" in archives.  I have huge lesions on the inside of my cheeks in my mouth.  I have open blisters on my tongue.  I need rest and I need medical attention.  I am going to see the doctor this afternoon.  I haven't felt much stress lately which sometimes bring the disease on but here they are.  I am sure my high emotion of yesterday, though kept refrained, didn't help the situation.  Your prayers are coveted.  

One last thing.  This afternoon or maybe tonight I will be posting a "Prayer for your child's future Husband/Wife".  I have been praying it for some time now and I hope you will too if your children aren't already married.  

I love you my friends, thank you for letting me vent this morning! acf