Silly Smoking Girlfriends!

Last night a friend of mine called, she says immediately "I need a friend".  Her car broke down, in the car line while picking up her daughter, her teenage daughter.  Smoke and fluid came pouring out of her car in front of everyone.  I wanted to laugh but understood her embarrassment and frustration.  I have a van I drive.  It has over 200,000 miles on it.  I have a beautiful, Cadillac as well.  It is about 5 years old, but still running well.  My college son has took over my car since wrecking his Jetta.  My youngest has a used BMW.  So mom drives the family van.  It has issues.  When you park it, smoke billows out of the hood when you turn it off.  Sometimes when you are stopped at a light it will smoke as well.  It has leaky gaskets.  So my girlfriend and I have this bond. We laughed off my friends incident so we wouldn't cry. We are thankful for friends who come to the rescue.  In her case, her boss.  

Let's talk girlfriends.  Real girlfriends. The ones who you could hug and laugh with one minute, and the next minute want to strangle because they are so frustrating.  Girlfriends know each other real well.  There is no getting away with anything, even if they don't bring it to your attention, which is a sign of a good friend sometimes.  We must allow our errors to self inflict a lesson without additional criticism.  Your girlfriends are usually small in number.  Do you have a sister, cousin or a friend, who is your "girlfriend"?  I have weeded a few out in my life time but overall, the friends I have are loyal, funny, and brutally honest.  They are the girls who will tell you like it is and possibly offend, yet they apologize when they are too harsh, and comfort you when you hurt.  These are the girlfriends that come to your aid because they want to not because it's the "right" thing or a" have to" thing.  So if you have them, this weekend is a good time to celebrate this loving bond between friends.   Valentine's Day though commercial in nature could be a great time to show your appreciation and love.  

Now in the same breath, I have a question.  I think it is so funny.  I was listening in Bible study to Beth Moore (dvd) and she said isn't it funny (not exact words) that women secretly delight when her friend gains two pounds (gains weight)?  It is so true, whether you admit it or not.  My question is can anyone of you find a friend and especially a "girlfriend" who will pray for you to lose weight?  If you do then don't let her go!  Think of it.  Do you pray for your friend to lose weight more than maybe once, when she first asks?  I think we women are so funny as in odd.  We still struggle with competition and jealousy.  We probably always will in our human nature.  I am not going to belabor this.  If you want more on my opinion of this go to my archives and read Green and Yellow Make Blue, dated 12/2/2008. This Valentine's Day turn your green to red and love on your girlfriend(s).  I plan to tell mine I love them and celebrate their "weight loss"....WAH!  Maybe I should acknowledge them with a big FAT box of chocolates...Lol!

When you try to be a girlfriend and are rejected.  Just be thankful for the friendship you do share.   Pray the Lord will bring that special person who will be your "girlfriend".  God ultimately wants a strong, personal, and intimate relationship with Him.  However, He will provide that confidant and silly, life enduring friend to minister to and be ministered by.  

Now, don't say that your husband is your best friend and you don't need a girlfriend!  It is true he deserves way more attention and relationship than our friends.  Yet, he doesn't need the burden and quite honestly silliness and girl talk that we so enjoy.  Ok, some of you don't enjoy it. Dream squasher.  I hate it for you. As for you my blogging girlfriends, I do love you and your brutal honesty.  I am growing and changing daily.  Thank you for being you!

BE PREPARED I plan to share about "husbands"tomorrow.  I hope to provide you with the best Valentine gifts to give him this weekend.  On Saturday, I plan to tell you about my first Valentine's gift from Kevin.  It was truly comical!  Have a great day.  Go buy that silly Valentine Card for your favorite girl!